A Wisdom to Defeat

Author : Arvind Katoch
Many time in life we come up with problems, from where it looks the end of every thing. Situations look going out of control. Nothing looks coming from anywhere to rescue us. In this situation lies the use of wisdom to defeat. Here I am sharing the story of a donkey. The donkey fell in to the well. The owner of donkey tried everything to rescue the donkey, but every thing fails. On the failure to rescue the donkey, the owner decided to burry him alive. Because the donkey was old and well was also dry. For burring the donkey, he sot the help of the villagers. They all started throwing stones and mud into the well. By realizing the situation, donkey started shaking and jumping vigorously. By this action mud and stone started settling on the ground and raising the level for donkey. Soon with his efforts donkey comes near to the wall of well and jumped out happily. The owner and the villagers amazed to see it. World is also likes that. It through dirt on us, in the time of difficulties. Tries to burry us under it. Telling us that we are useless. This is up to us that how we use this dirt. We can use it constructively and uplifts our life.This story clearly gives us the wisdom to defeat. In difficult situation we require to use this wisdom and defeat the world. When we are in difficulties, then nobody will come to our help, but every body will try to even produce more difficulties for us. They will through all kind of dirt on us, so that they can burry us. Here nobody can help us. Only way to freedom is using this dirt in constructive way, because there is always lies a unique way to come out of it. Only thing is that we should be able to see it and use it till the end. Many situations like this come in our life, where we are rendered useless. This is actual time of telling the world but we are. This is real test and we have to come as winner from it. The difference between a loser and successful person is very small. Successful person is who fought till the end and defeat the enemies. There is no wisdom in loosing the battle. We are born to win; this is the cause of our birth. Therefore by realizing the wisdom to defeat we can emerge as victorious, with a surprise to the world.http://www.geocities.com/arvindkatoch1

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Climbing The Walls of Life - The Key to Navigating Formidable Obstacles

Author : Evan Lyn
One of the wisest things I've heard in a long time was spoken by someone who climbs walls for a living.

Yesterday I went indoor rock climbing for the first time with some co-workers. The rock climbing walls were about 4 or 5 stories high. Most of the hand and toeholds didn't look that big; some of them were so small they looked like candy drops on cookies. But I thought it wouldn't be too hard, since I lift weights at the gym every week. I had hiked (small) mountains, rafted for hours on a river, and even jumped out of an airplane once. A wall? No problem.

The first wall I went up was designated an intermediate climb. Around 3/4s of the way up, I couldn't believe it – I got tired. It takes me over an hour to get tired of lifting weights, but climbing a wall? Less than five minutes. I eventually made it up (after resting on that wall for another five minutes).

For the second climb, I played it safe and chose the beginner climb - what they called a "confidence climb". The trainer said, "It's too easy for you." (She obviously didn't know how tired I was.) I said, "Are you kidding? I might not even make it." I made it, but it was still a little tough near the top. I have no idea why they called it a confidence climb, since I felt drained of both energy and confidence. I didn't think I had any strength left for a third climb, but I had 20 minutes left, so I gave it a try anyway. I got 2/3rds of the way up before I stalled. I tried 3 times to go higher, but failed. So I quit. I was just too tired. All my strength was gone.

As I was resting on the bench, a couple of kids came in with their father. They were no more than 10 years old. They chose the beginner wall, the one I just climbed. They went up like spiders. It took them two minutes. They did it without any fear, and almost without stopping. I pointed them out to my co-worker, and he said, "That's nothing. See that other kid over there? She's the daughter of one of the trainers. She can climb up any of these walls without a problem. Now she's really amazing." She looked 10 years old, too. How can people who are half as short and 1/3 my age climb up so fast?

So I asked a trainer nearby, "How come those kids can climb so well? Is it because they start out young?" And he said, "No, it's not really about age or strength. Almost anybody can climb these walls. You just have to learn when and where to expend your energy. You have to know how to look at the wall and yourself, and learn which way up is the best for you. If you don't learn how to do that, you'll waste your energy in places where you shouldn't. When that happens, you'll get tired very quickly and fall."

He was talking about climbing, but to me it felt like he was talking about life. I think this is a principle we can potentially apply in many areas of life. Anytime we start finding ourselves tired, perhaps it's because we've misallocated our energies. Tiredness may not be just a result of working hard, but also a consequence of working inefficiently. Perhaps we've tried too hard and wasted our resources in certain places, when we should have rested instead, or given up and gone a different route. Instead of just working hard, maybe we need to learn how to work differently - and more wisely. Perhaps we try too hard to fight and overcome the walls in our lives, when instead we should work with them so that we can eventually climb above them.
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Lessons We Can Learn from Jonah and the Whale

Author : Deanna Mascle
Our church has charged all parents of young children to read a Bible story each day to our children so reading from my son Noah's children's Bible has become a part of our regular bedtime routine. Sometimes I try to hit stories that relate to the current holiday in the Christian calendar and other times we simply pick stories that look interesting to him (there are pictures to help with the choice). There are also stories that he considers to be favorites--Noah and the Ark of course, Zacchaeus (because he loves the song), and Jonah.I have been very happy with his eager responsiveness to the stories and to reading them. He will even pull out his children's Bible to share the stories with his stuffed animals--or at least some version that he remembers or can guess from the pictures.One day when he related the story of Jonah to Fred the green rabbit I was struck by how close to home the story strikes--for Noah, for me, for all of us.Noah's version of Jonah:God told Jonah to go to a special place but Jonah didn't listen. He went on a boat to another city instead. So God sent a storm and threw Jonah into the water and a giant fish swallowed him up. Jonah was in time out in the fish for three days before God told him he could get out of the fish. Then Jonah went where God told him to go. The End.Noah to Fred: "You have to listen to God or you'll get in time out too!"Noah's story is simplistic but then so is the essence of Jonah's story. The moral of the story is simply that we must listen to God.If only it was as simple as that!Of course we know that. No matter what our religion or creed we know that we must listen to God. We know we must follow the rules and guidelines that God has set down for us.Children, like Noah, know they must follow their parents' rules and dictates or there will be consequences. Often those consequences involve a time-out for Noah so the story of Jonah strikes home with him.Obviously as he grows older the rules that he must follow will come from many different sources and many will be unspoken. This is why his father and I now set down rules and boundaries for him. Obviously it makes our home life easier if he follows set rules and other rules are necessary for his protection, but even more important we are teaching him to follow the rules that God and society have set down for him.We learned rules as children for the same reasons but as we grow up and learn to abide by the rules of God and society the punishments we receive change and become more subtle. We no longer are put in time out but instead encounter punishments that more often come in a social or monetary form.For many of us it becomes increasingly easy to ignore these punishments without the threat of a big whale to swallow us up.As a Christian, I think God's message to us is simple. He wants us to love him and to show that love by loving and helping others. All of Jesus' lessons and teachings can be tied to that simple theme.It is simple and yet so very hard. What have you done this week to love and honor God? What have you done this week to love and help others?What worries me is that some people get so wrapped up in following other messages they have gleaned from the Bible that they often overlook or directly contradict these essential truths. While the Bible and its teaching are incredibly complex, one can find the truth by simply studying Jesus' teachings and actions. There is truth in the simple question--What Would Jesus' Do?It is simple and yet so very hard. What have you done this week to love and honor God? What have you done this week to love and help others?Of course the difficult challenge is the fact that by not doing these things we are just as bad as Jonah. We are not doing what God has told us to do.Don't look now, but isn't that a big whale coming up behind you?Deanna Mascle is an inspirational freelance writer. You can find more inspiration at Inspiration by Dawggone and her inspirational ezines Words of Inspiration Online and Daily Quote Online.
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You Have the Right to Be Wrong

Author : Steve Pavlina
"You have the right to be wrong" was a common expression of an old high school history teacher of mine. Some students hated this teacher because they thought he was lazy and a bit sadistic. He never lectured, nor did he ever seem to have a lesson plan prepared. He'd just sit back in his chair, sometimes putting his feet up on his desk, and then he'd ask probing questions and insult whoever attempted to answer them (usually for their lack of individual thought).For homework he'd assign us lots of dry reading material, and then we'd have to write very brief papers on complex subjects, like a two-page, double-spaced paper about the causes of the Civil War. Believe me — this is a lot harder than writing a 5-10 page paper on the subject because you have to choose your words very carefully. Otherwise you'll run out of space before you make a dent in the topic. Two pages was the maximum you'd be allowed to write. If you wrote 2.1 pages, you'd fail the assignment. "Verbal flabbiness" wasn't allowed.Despite his lack of popularity, this teacher had the stated goal of teaching students to think for themselves instead of merely regurgitating information we learned elsewhere. This is tough to do with 17-year olds, especially with a subject like U.S. history.I thought the expression, "you have the right to be wrong," while usually meant as a joke in this class, was good advice. It's not in the Bill of Rights, but perhaps it can be considered a basic human right. You have the right to be wrong. You have the right to make mistakes. You have the right to fail.Many people don't see the value in exercising this right, however. I think this is also a major component in the fear of public speaking. What if you take a stand on something, and you're shot down, proven utterly wrong?What's so terrible about being wrong? If you're never wrong, to me that indicates you aren't growing. I hope that five years from now, I'll look back on some of my blog posts from this year and disagree with myself. Otherwise it would mean that either I haven't grown or that I was too timid in expressing myself.Don't be afraid to take stabs at the edges of your certainty. That's one of the best ways to learn. Let others react to your ideas. Sometimes they'll help provide new facts that can allow you to refine your ideas. Other times they'll merely react emotionally which can help you become more resilient in weathering other people's emotions. Don't be afraid to put out your ideas in a conversation, a speech, an article, a blog entry, a forum post — any communication where you can get feedback from others.Take your ego out of the pictureI think people resist being wrong because they equate their ideas with their ego. So if their ideas get shot down, they treat it as a personal defeat — they feel humiliated. The feedback from others may even encourage this reaction: "Boy, you really blew it tonight." But just because others equate your ideas with your identity doesn't mean you're obligated to do so as well.Over-investing your ego in your results is unproductive and unnecessary. If you think the failure of your ideas is a personal failure, you'll take too few risks, risks that could ultimately pay off. But if you can learn to separate yourself from your ideas and your work and see them as something separate from yourself, you'll feel you truly have the right to be wrong. If an idea fails, why not let it be the idea's fault instead of your own? Allow your ideas to fail without turning them into personal defeat.When I write articles or give speeches, I do my best to remove my ego from any attachment to the results. Ideas are ideas — they are not me. Even if I'm relating personal stories, those stories are still not equal to the real me. They're merely words. If I give a speech and get a lousy reaction, the reaction might be due to my lack of skill as a speaker. But again, my skills are not equal to the real me. My ideas and skills are merely possessions or creations, but they don't define the real me. Thus, I never feel my ego is in any danger if a speech or an article bombs.If an idea seems to really hit the mark, I don't take it as a personal victory either. I just think… hey, that's appears to be a good idea. If an idea misses the mark, I see if there's any helpful feedback and then may refine or abandon the idea. Or it could be that I felt the idea wasn't expressed well enough and missed its mark due to being poorly communicated. To me it's all just feedback to create better ideas and to improve communication skills.I think this attitude is what helps make it very easy for me to give a speech without nervousness and to write regularly for an audience of tens of thousands of readers. I feel it's perfectly fine for me to be wrong. When discussing a complex subject like personal growth, there are many shades of gray. Despite all the knowledge and experience I have in this area, there's no way I could ever hope to perfectly understand every facet of this vast field. Plus my communication skills are invariably imprecise. Effective communication requires a combination of logic and emotion, and those are sometimes at odds with each other and will impact different individuals uniquely. I know of no great speakers or writers who ever achieve unanimous agreement when they communicate anything of value. By keeping ego out of the picture, you can do as Winston Churchill suggested — move from one failure to the next with no loss of enthusiasm.How could you better exercise your right to be wrong? Have you been afraid to hit the gym because you don't know what to do and expect that you will only look like an idiot? Don't put your ego on the line — remember that it's only your skills that are lacking. You are not lacking as a human being just because you lack certain knowledge and skill. Where else could you take a stab at being wrong or ignorant where the only long-term consequence would be a bruised ego (and not even that if you leave your ego behind)?You have the right to be wrong. Let your ideas fail, let your skills prove their inadequacy, and let your knowledge reveal its limits. None of that is the real you anyway.When you fail you discover your boundaries. You map out the edges of your capabilities. And this allows you to eventually move beyond them.Being wrong eventually leads to being right. And even where it doesn't, it's still a more interesting path than being nothing.Copyright © Steve PavlinaSteve Pavlina
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Your Soul's Reason for Being

Author : Brad Swift
Gerry writes:'I have just been reading the latest ezine and I am sure I need help trying to clarify some of the points listed in the ezine.I am all for living a life on purpose once I have explored the big question of why we are here. And I know people make up their own minds what their life on purpose should be. But how do you deeply know that your path is the correct path and has been correctly set?Simply purposeful play sounds and sharing this attitude sounds great but if everyone is going in different directions it can be difficult when people who do not have a life of purpose attitude and try to cause trouble for those of us who would like to just live a simple purposeful life.Your ezines always appear to be very positive and is always a great thing.'--==++----My Reply:Thanks again for your message. Let's see if I can be of assistance along your own Purposeful Path. The Life On Purpose Perspective suggests that a person's life purpose is an overarching meaning for their life -- that which you as a soul/spiritual being came here to earth to be and to experience.Said another way, your life purpose is a way of being that you bring to the world and to all that you do. In fact, what you do becomes the way in which you express who you are -- i.e. your life purpose.Now, about those 'other people' who aren't living on purpose. I suggest that we are all here to live on purpose and some of us are more awake and aware to this than others. I look to my garden for a metaphor. I notice that some of the tomatoes on the vine are small and green, others larger and still green and still others starting to turn red. The red tomatoes are no more a tomato than a green one, just further along in the process of life. The same is true for people along the process of living on purpose. Our job, us 'redder tomatoes'
is to give room to others -- grant them being at whatever stage of development they are. It's the universal law of allowing, or said another way, accepting people as they are, while at the same time knowing who we are, and not holding our light under a bushel basket.I've noticed that as I've continued to live my own life purpose I attract to me all the resources necessary to continue that process, and that includes other purposeful people. Since I've taken on the mission to assist others in clarifying their life purpose, I also attract 'green tomatoes in the process of turning red.' No one can really stop another person from living true to their life purpose since from the Life On Purpose Perspective a life purpose is a way of being.
It is not my view that people are going 'in different directions.' We are all going in similar directions. We are just at different stages of development and going at our own rate, and then expressing where we are in the process of living on purpose in our own unique ways.Thanks. Your allowing me to offer this to you has given me the opportunity to explore this further for myself and thus become clearer as well.©2005 Brad Swift of Life On Purpose Institute, Inc.
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Past Life Regression

Author : Robert Baird
"Long, I want you to lie here and be perfectly comfortable." Jerry began the regression, which we were doing in his room on the ground floor."Close your eyes and I'll count back from ten very slowly." Jerry was reading from the book which I had asked him to do when he put her into the hypnotized state. Each number had a corresponding suggestion but before he got past number eight she started to exhibit the strangest responses in her body. I was amazed and I think Jerry was too. Later he said he had never seen anything like it. In the movie Alien you see the creature moving inside the people. It was like that. Her muscles rippled in gross or enormous ways just as if there was something going up her torso inside. It was very visible even with her shirt on. Jerry could see she was 'under' and began the stages backwards up a visualized or imagined elevator going down and stopping occasionally. But again it was so easy for her to go back Jerry had to ask her to stop. She was talking in the trance state and at first she stopped inside the womb where a life was joining her."Who is it?" Jerry asked."It is my father from a life before this. He was sexually abusive to me and I took my life at age 20. I am dealing with my anger and I have to support this new life. I forgive and nourish." Long spoke and my memory of her exact words is not exact. We discussed the whole thing for a long time on many occasions after this and I think you will see why."Are you ready to get back on the elevator? Is everything settled here?""Yes, I love her and forgave him."She went back, way back! The next stop had her speaking about another spirit that was her religious leader in a Temple. We later thought this was Egypt. The spirit began talking in another tongue which even Long could not figure out. She spoke a few languages from far flung places in the world and had heard many others as we all had."Who is this new spirit?" Jerry and I almost simultaneously asked. Jerry had told me not to speak because it might break her trance but it was clear that was no issue."She is the High Priestess and I am her assistant or hand-maiden. She loves me very deeply and she is always near me in the various lives I travel.""Describe the surroundings please. What is this religion?"Jerry was trying to get some familiar landmarks or way to determine where or when this was. It was a lot like Egypt we thought, but when? Maurice spoke Egyptian with me around sometimes and all the other tongues of that region were spoken by many of my accounts in Hollywood. It was not like any of them yet it had some of the sounds that might have become any number of languages there and further north. It was not sing song or clicking with the tongue on the top of the palate. I was excited. Jerry and I looked at each other in amazement."Can we go back to when you first lived with this High Priestess? Do you want to go back to the elevator?""Sure." Long responded and easily went further back. Jerry let her stay in the elevator and hoped she would say when she had reached the very first time she had met this person. Later we thought she had gone back at least 30,000 years and she was still going back when Jerry asked her to stop the elevator and see where she was. She now only spoke as the person with a tongue none of us could understand. She seemed so much at peace and so full of wisdom. Her face was almost radiant. But we could not determine any shred of what these sounds were even though they were coherent. It was obviously a language with style and grace. There are tongues which grate on the ear and this was neither like them or the Asian tongues that include chanting almost."Get back in the elevator." Jerry asked. When she was coming back up he looked at me and asked me what we could do."I have no idea. We could ask her to stop again but maybe when she is out of trance we can talk about this and then do it again sometime. This is very weird isn't it?""I have read many books on these things and I have a gift for regressions. I have never heard or seen this kind of thing… Long I want you to come back to the present. You will be totally refreshed and remember everything you experienced." Long began to awaken or come out of the trance but before she came fully out and while her eyes were still closed she said something that altered the course of my life."Bob, I love you." It was her spirit or a union of this spirit and hers. She thought it was this High Priestess when we later talked about it. And you can be sure we never stopped talking about it, even to the last phone conversation which I had with her months after we would never see each other again.Author of many books available at http://www.Lulu.com and http://www.World-Mysteries.com
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Stress & Personal Development: When Navel-Gazing Turns Nasty!

Author : Tanja Gardner
Generally speaking, the more we develop ourselves personally, the lower our long-term stress levels. After all, discovering our life purpose helps avoid the stress of pointlessness. Developing better communication skills avoids many relationship problems. Improving time management helps avoid feeling overcommitted in day-to-day work. On the surface, stress management and personal development seem to fit together perfectly.There are times, however, when personal development itself can get a little out of control – when it starts adding to your stress, rather than helping manage it. When that happens, you can start to find yourself showing more of the signs of stress (for more information on these, ask for a copy of our free stress audit questionnaire), instead of less.So should we totally avoid personal development altogether if we want to keep a handle on stress? Not necessarily, but we may need to look at what development we're doing and how it's affecting our stress levels.SO HOW CAN PERSONAL DEVELOPMENT INCREASE STRESS?All personal development involves change on some level, and change is a major source of stress for many people. This means that, even if you're trying to improve something that will eventually lower your stress level (e.g. time management or communication skills), it can sometimes act as a short-term.There are four main reasons for personal development work causing, rather than curing stress:- Too Many Areas
- Lack of Balance
- Unrealistic Expectations
- Going it AloneTOO MANY AREASPersonal development can be addictive - who wouldn't want to be the best person they can in every area of their lives? With so many areas we could work on, we often try to improve in multiple areas at once. For some people, this isn't an issue. For others, however, the old adage "chase two rabbits, catch neither" applies.If you're working on improving two or more areas of your life and your stress levels rise, consider asking yourself, "Which area is most important right now?", or, "Which area would improving make the most difference for me right now?" and then focussing on that area. Everything else will still be there waiting for you when you're finished with the first one!LACK OF OVERALL BALANCEPersonal development takes commitment and willingness to act. Sometimes, however, we exaggerate the importance of a particular improvement to the point that nothing else matters, and other areas get neglected. For example, if you want to develop spiritually, you need to take time out to do this. If you start ignoring friends or work demands so you can meditate to for hours each day, it may start causing stress.Note that you're the only one who can say what the right balance of "personal development time". Some people might want to take weeks, months, or years out from the world for self-improvement. Most of us, however, want to integrate our development with our current lifestyles. If that's the case for you, examine how much time you spend on personal development, and consider cutting back if appropriate.UNREALISTIC EXPECTATIONSIt can be hard to create a mental image of how we want to be, then acknowledge how far we are from it now without blaming or getting angry with ourselves. In the same vein, once we have that clear image, it's easy to believe that we'll suddenly be able to act in accordance with it. If only it were that easy!In reality, that habits take time to change, new skills take practice to implement, and little that happens overnight will last. If you're frustrated because you're not seeing progress (or not seeing it fast enough), remember self-improvement is a little like building a house. The first part of the work always happens beneath ground level – digging and then laying foundations. On the surface, it would seem absolutely nothing was happening. Yet if those foundations aren't laid properly, the house itself will collapse. Personal development can be a lot like that.If you're frustrated by an apparent lack of progress, take a step back and ask yourself how realistic your expectations are. Talk to others who've made the same change – how long did it take them? What stages did they go through? While everyone's journey is unique, you may find that hearing from others helps put things into perspective for you.DOING IT ALL ON YOUR OWNOf course, personal development is personal – no-one can do it for you. But you don't need to deal with it alone. There's enough support out there – in the form of communities, mailing lists, forums, and trained experts – that no-one should feel alone. Type "personal development" or "self improvement" into your search engine of choice and see what comes up. Alternatively, consider consulting a stress management coach.© Tanja Gardner, Optimum Life Ltd.Tanja is a team leader with the Internet's #1 personal development website, http://optimumlife.successuniversity.comFor a free 30-min consultation on how we could help you live your optimum life, please visit http://optimumlife.co.nz

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